性侵犯

• 去一个安全的地方. 打电话给支持人员. 
• 不要试图独自承受这一切. 这不能怪你! 
• 拨打HAVEN的免费危机热线 877.922.1274， 911或(248)370 -3333为OU警察.
• Do not change clothes, shower, bathe, or douche even though you may feel a strong need to do so. If there has been oral penetration, do not brush your teeth, smoke, chew gum, or eat anything. 
• It is crucial that you do not destroy evidence in case you decide to press charges. 如果你的伤势很严重, have someone call 911 or take you directly to an Emergency Room (such as Ascension Providence Rochester Hospital).

You may have serious internal injuries; you need to have a physical examination. The risks for sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy need to be discussed. 另外, the assault needs to be legally documented and evidence collected; this is referred to as the Medical-法律 Exam.

即使你最初的想法是你永远不会上法庭, 最好把证据收集起来，以防你以后改变主意. 你越早做完考试越好.

为了调查犯罪, 一名警探会盘问你, 从犯罪现场收集证据, receive the evidence obtained by the nurse examiner at the 葛培理健康中心 or the hospital, 然后写一份正式的声明. 警方会保护你的匿名性.

Questioning will usually focus on the events prior to the initial contact with the assailant, 对攻击者的行为和言语的详细描述, 袭击的情况, 还有对袭击者的描述. 他们也可能会问你最后一次双方自愿的性行为是什么时候. 提问以非评判的方式进行. In preparation for this interview, you may wish to write down your account in advance.

Michigan’s Criminal Sexual Conduct Code (CSC) prohibits forced or coerced sexual activity, the extent of which may range from the touching of sexual parts of the body to penetration of any oral, 阴道, 或者肛门体腔. 幸存者可能是女性也可能是男性. 同意必须是明确和自由的. A person under the influence of drugs or alcohol is considered incapable of giving the consent. A rape shield provision in the law restricts admissible evidence concerning the survivor's prior sexual history.

如果你是性侵的幸存者, reaching out for help is a crucial step in your recovery and in the healing process. 你可以决定向谁以及如何寻求帮助. 我们建议:

1. 告诉你信任的人. Sexual assaults can be terrifying, traumatic, and an enormous burden to bear alone. 想想你可以信任谁，告诉他你相信他会支持你. You can also call Haven’s  24 hours a day, 7 days a week Crisis Support Line at (248) 334.1274 或免费电话  877.922.1274. 你也可以在开放大学咨询中心与咨询师见面, 星期一至星期五, 上午8时至下午5时.  The most important thing is finding someone to talk to and not staying silent about what has happened to you. 
    
2. 要求体格检查. 即使你认为自己没有受到身体上的伤害, 你可能需要检查一下有没有内伤, 尽早怀孕和性传播疾病. Having a medical exam within 72 hours is best for collecting physical evidence of the sexual assault. 
    
3. 向警方报告. 你可联络Haven (877.922.1274) 以协助审查您的报告选项. Whether to file a police report is your decision, and you do not have to make it immediately. 然而, 如果你决定报案的话, 尽快做这件事对你的情况是有利的. 
    
4. 寻求额外的支持性咨询. 不管你是否接受了体检或报告了袭击事件, 你可能需要帮助来处理袭击的影响. 开放大学咨询中心提供全面的, 专家治疗服务，帮助您通过恢复过程. You can come in to the Counseling Center on a walk-in crisis basis and be seen by a counselor as soon as possible the same day.

重要的是你要记住，无论在什么情况下, 发生在你身上的事不应该怪你. 允许自己去做你需要做的事情来照顾好自己. 最重要的是，寻求帮助! There are people in your life who care about you and professionals who can help you heal.

当考虑是否告诉你的家人和其他亲近的人, 预测他们可能的反应是有帮助的. 回顾一下你过去和现在的关系，以及获得支持的历史.

如果你的家人和/或重要的人没有被告知, you may experience feelings of isolation and guilt over keeping this from them. 你的家人可能会在以后的日子里从另一个来源发现. It is also important to note that you may be denying yourself a major source of support. You may wish to discuss this and other decisions with a trusted friend or counselor.

每个幸存者都有他/她自己的康复时间表. 有些人已经准备好马上接受咨询，而有些人则没有. Being heard by someone who is objective, supportive, and non-judgmental can be extremely beneficial.  Confidential counseling is available for students through the OU Counseling Center.

The survivor of sexual assault has been through a very traumatic experience and it is important that she/he receive support, 援助, 准确的信息. 你的支持是非常宝贵的.

允许幸存者做出选择并保持控制. 让她/他放心，不要责怪她/他. 听她/他谈论这段经历. 接受幸存者的许多情绪反应，包括愤怒, 恐惧, 焦虑, 和抑郁.

相信幸存者告诉你的. Know that revealing this experience takes a great deal of strength and courage. Letting the survivor know that you believe what they have told you and that the assault was not their fault is extremely important.

尊重隐私. 未经幸存者允许，不要告诉任何人性侵的事. The survivor has only chosen to tell you and it may be hurtful or detrimental to their healing process and recovery.

做一个好的倾听者. Here are some things to keep in mind when a survivor chooses to talk with you:

• 是否专注于理解幸存者的感受
• 允许安静
• 让幸存者知道你很高兴他/她告诉了你
• 不要审问或询问有关性侵犯的具体细节
• 不要问“为什么”之类的问题，比如“你为什么去那里”?或者“你为什么不尖叫??或者“你为什么不马上去医院??"
• DON'T tell the survivor what you would have done or what they should have done

让幸存者自己做决定. Always let survivors weigh their options and decide how to proceed in their own recovery process. Telling a survivor what you think they “should do” about the options available to them can contribute to a survivor’s sense of being disempowered. 与其自己负责，不如问问自己能帮上什么忙. 支持幸存者的决定，即使你不同意他们的决定!

提醒幸存者你关心他们. “陪伴”幸存者是非常重要的. You can do this in a number of ways; by being a good listener; accompanying them if they seek medical attention or walking over with them to get counseling or crisis support at the Counseling Center; making arrangements to have dinner or coffee with them; asking the survivor “how can I be helpful”; voicing your concern by saying things like “I’m sorry that this has happened”; telling them how courageous they are; or telling them that you don’t see the survivor any differently may all be tangible ways to show that you care about the survivor.

如果幸存者需要的话，给他一些空间. Be sensitive to the fact that the survivor might want to spend some time alone. 不要往心里去. Survivors may just need some time to pay attention to their own needs from time to time.  

如果你是幸存者的恋人, 在触摸或抱着幸存者之前，先征得同意. 不要急于进行性接触. The survivor needs to decide when it is right to have sexual contact and to pace the intensity of involvement. Accept the fact that the survivor’s renewal of sexual interest may occur at a slow pace. 在与性无关的环境中讨论性的话题.